Cara Delevingne admits she was once ‘scared to be submissive’ in love
The actress spoke candidly about balancing her 'dominant' personality with emotional intimacy
Cara Delevingne has candidly opened up about her fears surrounding vulnerability and relationships during a surprise on-stage confessional at The O2.
The 33-year-old star made the comments while attending a concert by Spanish singer Rosalía on Wednesday night, where she discussed her four-year relationship with girlfriend Minke.
Speaking to the crowd, Delevingne admitted she previously struggled with the idea of being “submissive” in relationships because she feared becoming emotionally vulnerable.
“Now I am in a committed relationship. I used to always love being the dominant one, I liked to take control,” she shared.
“I think it was because I was scared of being seen, I was scared to be submissive because I didn't want to receive love.”
The actress went on to explain that she is now learning to embrace a different side of herself while maintaining her strong personality.
“But now I think I'm ready,” she added. “I just want to know that even if I am submissive, I don't want to lose that part of myself that can be that fiery, dominant Leo that I am.”
When Rosalía questioned why she felt she had to be “one or the other,” Delevingne agreed that both sides of her personality could coexist.
Earlier in the conversation, the actress who publicly came out as pansexual in 2020 also joked about her past attraction to “straight women,” describing it as “the challenge.”
She added that she does not believe “anyone is ever fully straight.”
Delevingne and Minke first met while attending school together before reconnecting years later at an Alanis Morissette concert in 2022.
The couple have since spoken openly about the positive impact their relationship has had on their lives.
In a previous interview with Elle UK, Delevingne praised Minke for helping her feel more comfortable with herself and supporting her sobriety journey.
Meanwhile, Minke previously described herself as “proud” of Delevingne while discussing how the pair balance public attention with keeping their personal life relatively private.