Heather Graham opens up about discomfort with intimacy coordinators
The actress says added oversight during intimate scenes can be distracting
Heather Graham is weighing in on the growing use of intimacy coordinators in Hollywood, acknowledging their purpose while admitting the experience can feel “awkward.”
The 56-year-old actress, known for her roles in films like Boogie Nights, shared candid thoughts in a recent interview, reflecting on how on-set dynamics have changed since earlier in her career.
Graham said that while the introduction of intimacy coordinators stems from positive intentions, particularly in the wake of the MeToo movement, the reality of having someone closely monitor intimate scenes can be uncomfortable.
“I think there is a very good intention behind intimacy coordinators,” she said, adding that it can feel strange to adjust after years of working without them. “There’s this random person in the room just staring at you… it’s kind of awkward.”
The actress noted that the discomfort can increase when multiple coordinators are present, explaining that the added oversight sometimes makes already sensitive scenes feel more crowded and less natural.
Graham also recalled a recent project where she found herself unexpectedly concerned for a young intimacy coordinator during a particularly intense scene, describing the moment as both “disturbing” and surreal.
At times, she suggested, the role of intimacy coordinators can blur into creative territory.
Graham shared that she once felt conflicted when given direction on how to perform a scene, saying it created confusion by introducing another voice alongside the director.
Despite her reservations, the actress made clear she understands the value of such roles, particularly for younger performers who may benefit from additional support on set.
“It might be better if you’re younger and don’t know how to stand up for yourself,” she said, adding that at this stage in her career, she feels confident advocating for her own boundaries.
Graham, who also starred in Killing Me Softly, ultimately emphasized that while intimacy coordinators serve an important purpose in modern filmmaking, the experience can vary depending on the actor, and for her, less oversight can sometimes feel more comfortable.